After a relationship gone bad, you know that you still love that person. You keep thinking about her night and day and wonder if she feels the same way. You keep reminiscing those wonderful moments when you were together. You keep regretting to agree to the break-up and determine that you will never have her back.
Relationships are a great part of life and thus the quality of our life has to depend on the type of relationship we have. Relationships are very important and it’s up to us to maintain good relationships. But sometimes people get lazy or too comfortable with the status quo that they did not realise that the relationship is going down the slope.
Breaking up is one of the hardest events in life. It can affect you emotionally, physically and socially. You can’t eat, you can’t sleep and you reject invitations from friends to hang out. They think that you have totally changed and that you are taking the matter too seriously.
Since a break up is so painful, when do we know when to stay on and when to say “goodbye”?
Ask yourself if you still feel the love you have always enjoyed. Love is always the most important factor of a relationship, and once that is lost, then the relationship is dead. Perhaps sometimes you feel that you can’t feel it, but it may actually be your own thinking that has fooled you. To fins out, if its still there, ask your lover. Though that is very direct, it is the simplest and most direct way to find out. If the answer is negative, the man should tackle the initiative to suggest a break up. Clinging to a “loveless” relationship is a waste of time.
Sometimes the problem could come from yourself. You may have lost the love. Do you feel happy meeting him/her, or do you feel bored with him/her? If your answer is the second one, then the cause is that you do not feel the love for her anymore. Please be frank and say how you feel. Again, clinging on to this relationship is bad for both parties. The other person deserves someone who loves them.
Another instance is when the couple could not accomplish stuff together. This could be due to unwillingness or plainly you do not match with each other. In life, matters have to be improved on, whether is it the careers, the financial state of the education of the child. That’s where most of the fun comes from, and if those do not progress, life itself becomes very empty and, meaningless.
Here’s a typical story: a woman has been dating a guy for years, and she feel that he is the one for her and would like to marry him as soon as possible. The man, not having the same thoughts, ignores her hints of marriage. Then the woman had enough and decided to declare her desire or marriage. The man got freaked out and runs away.
There are a lot of characteristics men exhibit that constantly displeases their women. Sometimes it is because they are too insensitive, while other times it is the women who are too sensitive. Because everyone puts a different value to different stuff, misunderstanding occurs.
Compatibility is one of the most important factors in a relationship, and would be just as important as communications. To be compatible with another, you have to be the same “type” of person, or you just have to complement each other’s personality. Of course, a quiet person can be together with a talkative person, and their personalities may rub off on each other and make them more alike. Of they could stay that way and still complement. Of example, the talkative person may answers questions for the quiet person say, when confronted by a relative who asks about their marriage.
A lot of men have the common misconception that they must have rock star-like looks and a great personality in order to attract girls. To a lot of women, except those who are very young, looks are not the most important to look for, stop brooding over them. Some personality traits however, will attract girls and it is good to know what they are.
