Most of us have some experience in painful break ups and though we manage to recover on our own way and time, we seem helpless and not know what to do when something similar happen to our close friends. In time like these, though it is commendable to be supportive of your friend, but other than that, you will also need to find some way to help your friend through this difficult time.

At this stage, try to be patient and understanding towards your friend. Always remember that only time can heal their wounds. Don’t expect them to deal with their problems your way as difficult people have different ways of dealing with mourning and coping with their emotions. Try to encourage them to talk about their feelings instead of bottling them up. This will help them feel emotionally better. 

Most often than not, we tend to blame ourselves when relationships break down. At this stage, your friend might be feeling very miserable for blaming himself/herself for the end of the relationship. Assure your friend and remind him/her of their good qualities and how much they have contributed to the relationship. 

Even though you might feel unhappy with your friend’s ex for hurting them, do not say anything negative about them because your friend have just gone through the brunt of the break up and it is highly possible that your friend may be still in love with their ex. By criticizing their ex, it will only make your friend feel worse about the whole relationship. 

Suggest doing some activities with your friend so as to distract him/her from thinking of the break up. If it is possible, try spending more time with them and bring them on a short trip to forget the relationship and unwind. 

Never advice your friend to date someone new just to forget their ex. At this point in time, they might still be emotionally hurt and is not ready to go into a new relationship. Even if they do date someone new, it is highly possible that your friend is taking the partner as a substitute and its unfair to the other party involved. Be supportive of their actions but at the same time, maintain a rational mindset. 

If your friend have a serious suicidal thoughts, you should advice them to go for professional counselling. You have to put it in a suggestive way so as not to hurt your friend’s feelings and also to avoid strain in relationship. 

We all understand that it is not easy to cope with a break up and sometimes, it is very painful and frustrating for you to see your friend go through all these. However, if you can be supportive and patient towards them, they will appreciate whatever you have done and will come out from the other side much stronger and happier. 

We all make mistakes in love, but sometimes, in a heat of the moment, we make decisions that will throw us into regret and when we realize we have lost the ones we love.



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