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		<title>How To Seduce Women Using Flirting Techniques</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 15 Apr 2010 07:35:47 +0000</pubDate>
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When you wan to know how to seduce women,  then you have to get to the core of what attracts women.  Most men when they want to seduce women,  they focus on all of the WRONG things.  They try to find the perfect pick up line,  or they try to [...]]]></description>
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<p>When you wan to know <a href='http://www.geturgirl.com' target='_blank'>how to seduce women</a>,  then you have to get to the core of what attracts women.  Most men when they want to seduce women,  they focus on all of the WRONG things.  They try to find the perfect pick up line,  or they try to find some hypnotic trick that they can use to hopefully seduce a woman with relative ease.</p>
<p>Only thing is,  it does not usually work out that way.  If you want to be able to seduce a woman,  then you have to be able to trigger attraction and you have to be able to make that attraction INTENSE.  Otherwise,  you are not going to end up with getting the girl,  not in a way that you would like to.</p>
<p>If you are going to try and seduce women,  then you have to use <a href='http://ezinearticles.com/?Flirting-Tips-For-Guys---4-Must-Know-Flirting-Tricks-to-Escalate-HER-Attraction-For-You!&amp;id=3907424' target='_blank'>flirting tips for guys</a> that work to make her feel a certain way when she is around you.  You want to make her feel like she is floating on air,  so to speak,  when she is in your presence.  This is not an easy thing to do,  not in the least bit.</p>
<p>What are some of these flirting tips for guys that you should know and use to seduce a woman?</p>
<p>Here are a few flirting tips for guys that should give you an idea of what you want to be able to do:</p>
<p>1.  You have to use your eyes as a form of attraction.  </p>
<p>Don&#8217;t forget that your eyes can be more powerful than anything else to create attraction with a woman.  You have to be able to use those eyes in a way that makes her feel emotion when she is around you.</p>
<p>2.  You have to know how to joke with a woman.  </p>
<p>Being able to make a woman laugh is the key to making her feel attracted to you.  And this is no small task,  but when you can make her laugh all the time,  you know she will want to spend some time with you.</p>
<p>3.  You have to know how to trigger sexual attraction.  </p>
<p>Can you really trigger a woman&#8217;s attraction?  You bet you can.  As long as you are able to make her feel intense sexual attraction,  you are going to be able to seduce any woman you desire.</p>
<p>Knowing how to seduce a woman is the key to being able to get her to feel more than just a platonic attraction to you.  Anything else,  and you are not going to end up getting the girl.  At least,  not in the way that you would dream about.</p>
<p>There are more advanced flirting tips for guys that you can easily use to seduce a woman as well.  You just have to know what they are and how to use them to your advantage in terms of attracting a woman.</p>
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		<title>How Do You Use Body Language Flirting Such As Your Eyes</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 01 Apr 2010 07:59:40 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sandra Christian</dc:creator>
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Ok, it’s really not a “staring contest” when it comes to building sexual attraction. But the idea is whenever your eyes meet, absolutely do not break eye contact until she initiates the break! Three things here: one, subconsciously, she’ll get the impression that you’re a man who likes to be in control and so this [...]]]></description>
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<p>Ok, it’s really not a “staring contest” when it comes to building sexual attraction. But the idea is whenever your eyes meet, absolutely do not break eye contact until she initiates the break! Three things here: one, subconsciously, she’ll get the impression that you’re a man who likes to be in control and so this will make her think that you’re “The Man”; two, maintaining sexual contact means you are REALLY into her; and three, long, hard, and deep eye contact conveys a certain “dark side” about you.<span id="more-983"></span>Now that you know how to increase sexual attraction with eye contact, wouldn’t you like to take that to the next level? Open your eyes till they’re only 75% open. You want to look like you’re looking lovingly at her, not mentally willing her to undress in front of you! On the other hand, having your eyes open too slightly will make her think you’re probably sleepy and just about to doze off. 75% is the look you want to achieve.Eye contact at this rate will be the “come hither” look you see most often in the movies.</p>
<p>During eye contact, lower your head slightly. This “look” or “pose” conveys that you’re sexually interested in her. Tilting your head upwards is a sign that you’re looking down or belittling her and she won’t like that. Tilting your head to low gives the impression that you’re not self-confident and she won’t like that either. So lower your head just a little for maximum sexual attraction effect. When making eye contact, don’t blink a lot. But if you must, try to blink slowly. Blinking too much means you’re nervous, or worse, she may think you have an eye muscle disorder, and that’s not really sexy is it? Also, because you’re conveying nervousness from excessive blinking, that nervous feeling is going to be passed onto her and she’ll start to feel nervous too.</p>
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		<title>Mastering the Flirting Techniques &#8211; For Singles Only</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 20 Feb 2009 05:31:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sandra Christian</dc:creator>
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Everyone can give flirting signs, sometimes we do it consciously, and sometimes we do not know that we are giving out a flirting sign at all. A lot of &#8220;dating&#8221; concepts run so deeply that we do not recognize ourselves doing it. What are rarer though, are people who know who to spot these signs, [...]]]></description>
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<p>Everyone can give flirting signs, sometimes we do it consciously, and sometimes we do not know that we are giving out a flirting sign at all. A lot of &#8220;dating&#8221; concepts run so deeply that we do not recognize ourselves doing it. What are rarer though, are people who know who to spot these signs, interpret them, and use them to move to the next step. Therefore, learning the signs are very important, for observing people or if you would like to make a move.</p>
<p><span id="more-738"></span>A lot of signs are subtle. You need to really be observant. Eye contact is one of the most obvious parts. You know it when someone is looking at you for very long, or many times. Both men and women check themselves when in front of someone they are attracted to. They would adjust their clothing, touch their hair, and push the glasses up the nose. All these are signs that they want attention. Confident men would also sit with their legs wide spread out.</p>
<p>For women, the signs are normally &#8220;louder&#8221;. Their eye contact may be longer than men&#8217;s. When out with a group of friends, and when a man she likes is around, she will try to look as happy, cheerful, and outgoing a possible. These shows that she wants to be noticed, and she wants to give a good impression. Most women believe in looking their best, so they may adjust their clothing, play with their hair, and maybe even look at their mirror.</p>
<p>If a woman speaks more softly than she normally does, that is a signal for men to go closer. That is a great flirting sign, and means that the man should really move a step closer and continuing flirting or ask her out.</p>
<p>Knowing these signs is a good knowledge on life. It lets you know who you should be seeing, and who you should really give up instead of wasting time.</p>
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		<title>Flirting Signs Women Fail to Recognize &#8211; Men&#8217;s Body Language</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 16 Feb 2009 05:16:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sandra Christian</dc:creator>
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Both men and women flirt, but both parties have not yet learned the meaning behind the signs. Well, not a lot of people know anyway. Lots of men use flirting techniques on women, hoping to get a good response, but unfortunately most do not know that hints are given at all. This is because too [...]]]></description>
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<p>Both men and women flirt, but both parties have not yet learned the meaning behind the signs. Well, not a lot of people know anyway. Lots of men use flirting techniques on women, hoping to get a good response, but unfortunately most do not know that hints are given at all. This is because too few people know how to read signs. It does not take a book-reader to know the signs; a lot of information can be found online.</p>
<p><span id="more-726"></span>If you are really unsure if a man is flirting with you, perhaps not too many observations were done. In fact, a lot of signals can be given out in a quick meal. Observe the eye contact and the other body postures. Is the eye contact very long, was the eyebrows raised, would you say his posture is &#8220;open&#8221;?</p>
<p>There are some signs that can be caught in very common situations. Besides the above movements, he would also touch his hair or his glasses. This is to show he wants your eyes on him. He may also plays with his accessories, such as his necklace, again trying to attract more attention. He leans forward to indicate he wants to listen, and he laughs, showing that he is comfortable and happy around you. It is subtle, but there are meanings behind them.</p>
<p>These are the common signs that any man, no matter how brave or shy the man may be. Bolder, more confident &#8220;alpha&#8221; men may use more obvious signs, but they also give you more pressure because the signs are so strong you need to give a response. He may also send a text message saying that he misses you. This is a very clear flirting sign, so it&#8217;s up to you to return the message, or forget it and pretend you never received if you are not interested.</p>
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		<title>3 Flirting Cues to Take Note Before Asking The Girl Out</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 28 Oct 2008 04:34:06 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sandra Christian</dc:creator>
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Here you are standing in a crowded room staring at a hottie near the bar. Is she making eyes at you? Or is that just a weird tic? How exactly can you tell if you are been flirted with or you are just staring at some hapless soul with an em brassing weird condition? 
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<p>Here you are standing in a crowded room staring at a hottie near the bar. Is she making eyes at you? Or is that just a weird tic? How exactly can you tell if you are been flirted with or you are just staring at some hapless soul with an em brassing weird condition? </p>
<p><span id="more-463"></span>Flirting is a time honored tradition; it has been going on since Cleopatra waggled her asp at Marc Antony. Although everyone may have their own flirting style, there is three flirting signals that seem to be universal. </p>
<p>These are eye contact, accidental touch and vocal cues. Think about your last flirting encounter. Did it start with a friendly wink? Maybe a little bit of subtle eye batting? The eyes are of course the window to the soul so they are the first cue given to indicate interest. </p>
<p>Accidental touch may not be accidental at all. each of those arm brushes or hip bumps are slightly more aggressive cues to the bumpers intent. Pay attention to the next casual conversation. </p>
<p>Does the woman you are speaking to keep reaching out to pat or even squeeze your arms when she laughs? Has she walked past and trail her fingertips over your shoulder? That might be your cue to ask her out. She is clearing establishing her desire for physical contact and bridging the gap between you. (Please don&#8217;t be silly and think that you can just reach out and kiss her.) </p>
<p>Vocal cues may be the harder flirting signal to decipher, especially when men have less sensitive hearing than women do. A woman who are arouse will have a huskier, lower tones to her voice and they usually speak slower. </p>
<p>A recent study showed that women started using words like &#8220;juicy&#8221;, &#8220;wet&#8221; and other such adjectives more frequently when they are turn on. So listen carefully at not just what she say but how she say it as well. </p>
<p>To conclude, my advice is be on your toes and keep a look out for opportunities. If you are serious about getting the girl of your dream, then you need to seriously work on solid techniques to achieve your goal. If you understand what a woman is thinking, it&#8217;s far easier to approach her.</p>
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		<title>Who Else Want to Find Out How &amp; Why We Flirt?</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 15 Oct 2008 08:15:19 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sandra Christian</dc:creator>
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Ok, this article comes from a local forum which was posted a couple of weeks ago and I find it very interesting and informative. However, i do not know where this original source came from. Too bad!

There are but two very specific types of people who flirt — singles and those who are married. Single [...]]]></description>
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<p>Ok, this article comes from a <a href="http://sgclub.com">local forum</a> which was posted a couple of weeks ago and I find it very interesting and informative. However, i do not know where this original source came from. Too bad!</p>
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<blockquote><p>There are but two very specific types of people who flirt — singles and those who are married. Single people flirt because, well, they’re single and therefore nobody is really obligated to talk to or do the ‘wild thing’ with them. But married people are more of an enigma — they’ve already found themselves a suitable significant other. So why do they persevere with the game, and how do we flirt to begin with?</p>
<p><strong>Flirting Stats</strong><br />
Statistics vary but most experts agree it takes between 90 seconds and 4 minutes to decide if we’re attracted to someone. As much as we’d like to believe it all rests on that witty opening one-liner — sorry, it doesn’t.</p>
<p>55% of the impression we perceive from someone is through our body language.</p>
<p>33% is from the tone, speed and nuance of our voice.</p>
<p>Only 7% is from what we’re actually saying.</p>
<p><strong>First Impressions</strong><br />
You need to get the body language down pat right off the bat or they won’t bother sticking around to find out how charming you are.</p>
<p>Here’s a thought to make you feel dreadfully self-aware — before you’ve even uttered a word to the person you’ve got your eye on, your posture and the way you’ve walked is more than 80% of their first impression of you.</p>
<p>We make snap judgments based on instinct but the fact is, nearly every facet of your personality is evident from your appearance, posture and the way you move.</p>
<p>So, how do we tell if our body is sending the right signals — and how to read theirs? Let your body do the talking — and the flirting — by learning to recognize them.</p>
<p><strong>5 Expert Methods of Flirting</strong></p>
<p><strong>The Flirting Triangle</strong><br />
When we look at people we’re unfamiliar with such as in a business situation, our eyes make a zig-zag motion — we look from eye to eye and across the bridge of the nose.</p>
<p>With friends, the look drops below eye level and moves into a triangle shape — we look from eye to eye and down to include the nose and mouth.</p>
<p>Once flirting begins, the triangle gets larger — it widens at the bottom to include parts of the body. The more intense the flirting, the more intensely we look from eye to eye — and the more time we spend looking at their mouth.</p>
<p>It can be highly seductive when someone’s watching your mouth while you’re talking to them. It could be they’re fantasizing what it would be like to kiss you. A word of caution — don’t be overly overt in this method or you’ll only succeed at relaying a subliminal message of being a sexual predator to a female.</p>
<p><strong>Mirroring</strong><br />
This is what separates a competent flirt from an expert — nothing will bond you more effectively than mirroring someone’s behavior. If they lean forward to say something intimate, you lean in to meet them. If they sit back, sip their drink and look you in the eye, you pause and follow suit.</p>
<p>The philosophy is that we like people who are like us. If someone is doing what we’re doing, we feel they’re on the same level and mood as we are.</p>
<p>But there are 2 major rules to become pro at this — only mirror positive body language, and capture the spirit rather than imitating them. Wait around 50 seconds as a rule of thumb before mimicking their gestures.</p>
<p><strong>The Eyebrow Flash</strong><br />
When we first see someone we’re attracted to our eyebrows rise and fall, and they’ll do the same if they’re equally attracted. Watch closely and carefully, because it only lasts about a fifth of a second.</p>
<p>It’s an unconscious gesture replicated by every culture on the planet. Some experts claim it’s the most instantly recognized non-verbal sign of greeting we humans use.</p>
<p>But for practicing flirters, the thing is to watch for it when you meet someone you’re interested in. On the pro level, tell them you’re interested on a subconscious level by prolonging your eyebrow flash for up to one second while catching their eye for full impact. Nothing longer or you’ll fall from pro status to idiot.</p>
<p><strong>Pointing</strong><br />
Steal a glance at their feet and hands. We have a tendency to point toward the person we’re interested in — if we find them attractive, we’ll often point at them subconsciously with our hands, arms, feet, legs, and toes.</p>
<p>This is another subliminal message used on the pro level to make your intentions known. It’s often picked up unconsciously by the other person, without them really knowing why.</p>
<p>If you have your eye on someone across the room, point your body in their direction — even if you don’t make eye contact, they may take the hint.</p>
<p><strong>Blinking</strong><br />
If someone likes what they see, their pupil size increases, as does their blink rate.</p>
<p>Being the expert flirt you are, up the odds in your favor by increasing the blink rate of the person you’re talking to by blinking more yourself. If the person likes you, they’ll unconsciously try to match your blink rate to keep in sync with you, in turn making you both feel more attracted to one another.</p>
<p><strong>Cues of Readiness</strong><br />
Notice the sidelong glance paired with the weak smile, the slightly sustained gaze given? A woman tilting her head to the side a bit, exposing her soft, sensuous neck, or looking at it another way, her jugular? A man maintaining his body in an open, come-on-attack-me position, arms positioned to draw the eye to his impressive lower abdomen?</p>
<p>Open Body Position: This come-and-get-me stance suggests the man<br />
is neither about to flee nor fight.</p>
<p>Scientists call all these little acts “contact-readiness” cues, because they indicate nonverbally that you’re prepared for physical engagement. Experts of general body language call this “nonverbal leakage.”</p>
<p>These cues are a crucial part of the “heterosexual relationship initiation process.” In primal terms, they’re physical signals that you don’t intend to dominate, nor do you intend to flee — both effective messages potential mates must send before they can proceed to that awkward talking phase. They’re the opening line for the opening line.</p>
<p><strong>Golden Rules of Body Language</strong><br />
Don’t judge based on one thing alone. Sitting with one’s arms crossed is often perceived as a defensive, stand-off posture — but it could also mean they’re freezing cold, or hiding a freshly spilt drink on their shirt.</p>
<p><strong>Don’t jump to conclusions </strong>— instead look for groups of behavior. If someone has their arms crossed and their lips are pursed disapprovingly, they’re likely on the defensive. Most experts on body language follow the Rule of 4 — look for at least 4 signals suggesting the same thing before totally believing it.</p>
<p><strong>Why We Flirt</strong><br />
One of the reasons we flirt is that we just can’t help ourselves — we’re programmed to do it by biology or culture. The Max Planck Institute in Germany filmed African tribes in the 1960’s and found that the African women did the exact same prolonged stare followed by a head tilt away with a little smile that he saw in America. </p>
<p>Some evolutionary biologists suggest that those who were pros at flirting maneuvers were more successful in quickly finding a mate and reproducing, and that the behavior therefore became widespread in all humans. “A lot of people feel flirting is part of the universal language of how we communicate, especially nonverbally.” says Jeffry Simpson, director of the social psychology program at the University of Minnesota.</p>
<p>Simpson is currently studying the roles that attraction and flirting play during different times of a woman’s ovulation cycle. His research suggests that women who are ovulating are more attracted to flirty men. “The guys they find appealing tend to have characteristics that are attractive in the short term, which include some flirtatious behaviors.” he says.</p>
<p>He’s not sure why women behave this way, but it follows that men who have sex with ovulating women have a greater chance of procreating and passing on those flirty genes. But this is an unconscious choice, just as flirting isn’t always intentional. “With a lot of it, especially the nonverbal stuff, people may not be fully aware that they’re doing it.” says Simpson. “You don’t see what you look like. People may emit flirtatious cues and not be fully aware of how powerful they are.”</p>
<p><strong>Flirting with Intent</strong><br />
But for the rest of you, you know who you are. Once you move into the verbal phase of flirting, it’s pretty much all intentional.</p>
<p><strong>Flirtation is a game we play</strong> — a dance in which everyone knows the moves. “People can flirt outrageously without intending anything.” says Timothy Perper, who’s been researching flirting for 30 years. “Flirting captures the interest of the other person and says ‘Would you like to play?”</p>
<p><strong>Flirting is Second Nature</strong><br />
The uncertainty of flirting is one of the most exhilarating things about the game. “Flirting opens a window of potential. Not yes, not no.” says Perper. “So we engage ourselves in this complex game of maybe.” The game is anything but new — the first published guide on how to flirt was written about 2,000 years ago, Perper says, by author Ovid. </p>
<p>Once we’ve learned the game of maybe, it becomes second nature to us. Long after we need to play it, we’re still occupied by it because we’re better at it than at other games, and sometimes it becomes a social fallback position.</p>
<p>“We all learn rules for how to behave in certain situations, and this makes it easier for people to know how to act, even when nervous.” says Antonia Abbey, a psychology professor at Wayne State University.</p>
<p>Just as we learn a kind of script for how to behave in a restaurant or at a business meeting, she suggests, we learn a script for talking to the opposite sex. “We often enact these scripts without even thinking.” she says. “For some women and men, the script may be so well learned that flirting is a comfortable strategy for interacting with others.” In other words, when in doubt, we flirt.</p>
<p><strong>Why Married People Flirt</strong><br />
What drives many already committed people to engage in the art of woo is often not doubt, but curiosity. Flirting “is a way of testing one’s mate-value and the possibility of alternatives — actually trying to see if someone might be available as an alternative.” says Arthur Aron, professor of psychology at the State University of New York at Stony Brook.</p>
<p>Evolutionary biologists claim the motivations are clear — mates and offspring die — flirting is somewhat like mating insurance.</p>
<p>Some may flirt to bring about renewed attention from your mate, which has advantages all its own.</p>
<p><strong>For Benefits</strong><br />
Flirting can be an emotional resource to gain something — not usually for money, but for the intangibles — a better table, a juicier cut of meat, a discount, or to return a purchase without any hassles. It’s a handy social lubricant, reducing the friction of everyday difficulties, more like a strategically timed tip than a romantic advance. Flirting is almost mandatory in today’s times.</p>
<p><strong>Online Flirting</strong><br />
The digital scene is all words and no body language — whether online or in text messages, nuance is nearly impossible. And since text and e-mail flirting can be done without having to look people in the eye, it’s bolder, racier and unrestrained without thought on whether the message could be misinterpreted or should even be sent at all.</p>
<p>“Flirt texting is a topic everyone finds fascinating, although not much research is out there yet.” says Abbey. “People are often more willing to disclose intimate details via the Internet, so the process may escalate more quickly.”</p>
<p>A University of Florida study of 86 participants in a chat room published in Psychology Today in 2003 found that while nearly all those surveyed felt they were initially simply flirting with a computer, not a real person, nearly a third of them eventually had a face-to-face meeting with someone they chatted with. All but 2 of the couples who met went on to have an affair.</p>
<p>Whether the people who eventually cheated went to the site with the intention of doing so or got drawn in by the fantasy of it all wasn’t clear.</p>
<p><strong>Affairs</strong><br />
Many people who flirt off-line aren’t typically looking for an affair. But one of the things about married flirting is that it has a much greater degree of danger and fantasy to it. The stakes are high and risks are great, even if the likelihood of anything happening is slim. But for some, it’s a highly addictive drug.</p>
<p>Therapists say that people who cheat are often not so much dissatisfied with their spouse as with themselves and the way their lives have turned out. There is little that feels more affirming and revitalizing than having someone fall in love with you — and little that feels less affirming than being cheated on.</p>
<p><strong>Safety on Dates</strong><br />
If you’re cyber dating, using the personals or a dating agency, it’s a good idea to arrange to meet for coffee or lunch rather than dinner. Not only are you safer in the day but you don’t waste time if it doesn’t work. Don’t lead anyone on if they’re not your fancy — which might turn into stalking — by being polite in saying “You’re a lovely person, but unfortunately, not what I was looking for.” </p>
<p>Stick to an area that’s well lit with plenty of people around. Better yet, meet in a place where you’re known so the person you’re with can be identified. Talk to the waiter / waitress so it’s obvious you’ve been seen with them.</p>
<p>Don’t invite strangers to your home and don’t go to theirs until you know them very well. Trust your gut instinct and listen carefully to their relationship history.</p>
<p>Give the details of your date to several friends — where you’ll be, the time you’ll meet, the person’s name, phone number and address. Get them to phone you an hour into the date to check you’re OK, and phone them a few hours later to report in again.</p>
<p><strong>Go Forth and Flirt</strong><br />
By now you’ve become an expert in the sphere of flirtation, armed with the best tricks of the trade. Flirting is an elixir, a way of feeling more alive, more vital, and more desirable without actually endangering the happiness of anyone you love. So go ahead and flirt — if you can do it responsibly and without hurting anyone. You might even try it with your spouse and reap some fantastically tantalizing rewards.<br />
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<p>I thought it was a great article. Kind of wordy in my opinion, but it sure gave you an in depth knowledge about flirting.  Hmmm, I may be considering having a flirting series in this blog, what do you think?</p>
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<p>Flirting is just a away to let the other party know that you are interested in them. The men are the ones who like flirting alot. The women also do flirt but trust them doing it discreetly. If you were to be very observant, you will conclude that women flirt more than men! If you are going to flirt, it would be good to arm yourself with some flirting techniques because they are very important. </p>
<p><span id="more-300"></span><strong>Ask the men you are flirting with to help you </strong></p>
<p>This is one flirting techniques that never fail. when you ask anyone to help you with something, you somehow make them feel very confident. You will also find that they will talk more with you, which is a positive sign especially if you really like them. </p>
<p><strong>Say his name</strong></p>
<p>When talking to a man, it is important to take note that whenever you have a chance, say his name. By doing this, you are actually sending a message that you did not forget his name and that you are geniunely interested in him. You too will admit that when someone say your name, especially if you like them, you will feel great. </p>
<p><strong>Do the same actions they do&#8230;discreetly</strong></p>
<p>If you are siting with them, try to do some of the actions they do. Notice I said &#8217;some&#8217;, not all of them. If the person crosses his legs or rubbing his arms, you should do the same. This is a very good flirting technique. </p>
<p><strong>Tell them your secrets</strong></p>
<p>Another flirting techniques that work well is telling the person your secrets. Let them know that you have a secret you want to tell them and when you get their attention, lean forward them and whisper something. It doesn&#8217;t really need to be a secret, something silly that hey do not expect you to tell them. You can compliment their dressing, shoes or even perfume. This way, they will know for sure that you are interested in them and that you are flirting with them. It is very important to take note not to whisper something offensive in any way. If you do, you will not be able to see the person again. Do not think that men are sexual creatures and whisper something sexual and get away with it. Even men get disgusted by sexual moves. If you cannot avoid whispering something naughty or dirty, then its better not to use this flirting technique.</p>
<p><strong>Always Smile </strong></p>
<p>Among the flirting techniques in your arsenal is smile. A smile is an important possession and you should embrace it. Smile light up even the darkest moments. If you don&#8217;t believe, try going out and smile to people around you. At the end of the day, not only would you feel good about yourself but also made someone&#8217;s day a very happy one. When you get a chance, smile to the person you are flirting with. Smile often means that you are inviting a person to come over and talk to you and if you want the person to come to where you are, smile. Give him your best smile and count the number of seconds he took to come over to your table.</p>
<div>I believe these techniques works well for women. But I also think that with a little change, men can benefit as well. Happy flirting!</div>
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